Porn Is Evil, Right?

About 6 months ago I decided to remove porn from my life once and for all, because it was destructive within my relationship and it was also restricting where I wanted to progress to in my life.

Now for me personally it was and still is the right decision, but recently I started thinking that maybe, just maybe porn isn’t that bad?!  I know, I know, the ‘nofap’ community will be getting ready to disown and discredit me, but to be honest who cares!

On the way home from work tonight I got thinking about maybe, just maybe porn isn’t that bad.  If all the adults are consenting and they are treated and paid in a professional manner, then what’s the big deal right?

Most of us choose to have sex, so why would viewing others having sex be such a bad thing?

Is All Porn Created Equal

If a man or a woman can view porn on a take it a leave it basis, then what’s the problem?  Is there one?  Now, all porn is not created equal.  We have the good old fashioned heterosexual porn, the lesbian, bisexual and the homosexual stuff.

Then we have the extreme porn, the degradation, the humiliation, the perversions and fetishes.  Now, is this where we get into dangerous territory?  Is there an acceptable level of sexual expression?

The habitual use of porn has been shown to change the way we think and perceive things, so in that regard then repeated exposure can cause permanent changes to our brain and how we view and interact with others.

Porn can also have positive influences when used as an addition to a healthy and loving relationship, as long as both partners consent and it isn’t done in secret.

Have I Gone Soft On Porn?

I still believe that porn is the wrong way to go for anyone, but I am also not condemning anyone for viewing it either by themselves or with a partner, or what not.  Anything that distracts a person into base thinking is not a good thing in my mind, but sometimes these things can serve a purpose.

Once the porn habit has become ingrained in ones mind from many, many years of use and abuse, then the path to recovery from its control is a long one.  I am currently in recovery from a deeply ingrained porn habit from many decades of viewing, and the struggle is real, and not something to be under-estimated.

You can read about my personal story here.

Judge Not, Least You Be Judged

I am not here to judge anyone, I have no interest in wagging the accusing finger, I am the last person in this world to preach about purity and celibacy in this regard.

Like I said at the start of this brief post.  I had a few thoughts on this topic, and I thought I would share them with you.

7 comments

  1. My husband and I would watch porn together back in the day. It seemed to enhance our sex life, but we never let it take over. What we watched was always centered around consent from two people, and never about dominance or force. I believe porn can be an added pleasure to a couples sex life as long as it doesn’t become a crutch for them ie: Can’t have sex without it. As with anything in life, moderation is the key. 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

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  2. You sound like the guy who doesn’t drink for a couple years and then says he can handle one drink. Once he handles that, he moves on to two drinks. I’m guessing you know how this movie ends.

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    1. Yep, I know how this movie ends. I have no intention of reverting back to my former self, I am just question whether porn can have a neutral to positive effect for some people.

      Don’t read too much into my questioning, I have an end vision for myself, and this vision does NOT include porn in any shape or form.

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      1. I would agree with what you stated, but I think it also boils down to what a person thinks is an acceptable addition to their life.

        Different strokes for different folks.

        Thanks for sharing 🙂

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